Like most girls, when I was younger, I had my whole life planned out. That planned included a fairy tale wedding to the perfect husband, a great career, 2.5 kids and living the life! In 2017, I thought I was finally on the path to checking all of those things off my list: I had obtained my MBA, was married to an amazing man, had one kid and anticipated more in the foreseeable future, had my own flourishing business, and was ready to take on the world. I had no clue that my "dream" life would come to a screeching halt just 11 months after my wedding.
Yes, just 11 months in (insert sigh).
My husband had been living a secret life and eventually, decided that he was tired of keeping it a secret. Since I didn't want to conform, the only option he saw was divorce, leaving me with a mountain of bills, embarrassment and hurt.
I felt so broken and betrayed.
How could someone I loved so much cause so much pain?
I was depressed for what felt like forever, but somehow managed to pull it together and keep up appearances for my daughter. She was depending on me, but it was hard. In a moment's time, our entire world changed and I felt that I had no say in the end.
I went through counseling, had a cluster of family and friends in my corner, prayed and prayed some more, but I still felt like something was missing. I needed a solution...an answer to how the hell I got here!
And then, something clicked.
I was so in love with my ex and wanted so desperately to hold on to what was. But I realized that this entire experience was like monkey bars; for me to fully be able to move forward, at some point, I had to let go. And that's exactly what I decided to do.
I began journaling and the transformation started to take shape. My motivation and laughter came back and, right when I needed it the most, I reconnected with a former boss.
While catching up, I learned that he too was going through a divorce, ending his 25 year marriage. He told me about a book that helped him tremendously and, if I didn't have it, I needed it...it would change my life.
The book was called, The Power, and he was right. It did change my life. Years prior, I had read The Secret, and had implemented it into much of my life, but at some point, I forgot about how much power I possessed and put it in the hands of another.
I listened to the audio version of the recommended book countless times and really started to notice a change in my mindset. In The Power, Rhonda Bryne (author) states, "Many people don't know about the power of good feelings, and so their feelings are reactions or responses to what happens to them. They have put their feelings on automatic pilot, instead of deliberately taking charge of them." Well, that ended for me that day.
I was taking charge of my emotions and reclaiming my life. That journal I was writing
in was full...and a good friend encouraged me to turn that journal into a book.
So I did.
My experience with a narcissistic sex addict became a book entitled, S(EX) and that book led me to creating
HealHER, a private community for women healing from toxic relationships. But, I still felt a pull in another
I had my doubts about coaching. I felt like who would want to hear me? I felt that I couldn't connect with my
potential audience like the Derrick Jaxn's of the world, and envisioned him having my book and speaking to
others about how it is possible to come out on the upside of hurt.
Little did I know, was putting manifestation into play. I envisioned it happening and released my desire out into the
and Stephan Speaks would be doing a summit and they would be in my area. She also told me that she and my dad
purchased a VIP ticket for me to do a meet & greet.
I didn't recall mentioning anything to her about what I had just envisioned weeks before, but the vision was now becoming a reality. At that time, all I could think was that I needed to have this book ready. What I had asked for was being given to me.
I prayed to God on the ride to the venue to allow the confirmation I was seeking to come effortlessly; and He did just that. Without knowing it, Derrick, Ace and Stephan provided me with the confirmation that I needed to get started on my coaching journey.
He set everything up to happen organically, ushering Jaxn to ask for a copy of my book (it wasn't released yet) and Stephan to utter the
words that would change everything. He said, "I knew [coaching] was my calling when I developed a closer relationship with God. I knew that this was my calling because I was able to see deeper into people's lives. And if you feel that this is what you're led to do, allow your pain to become your purpose."
I knew in that moment that it was time to make my bold attempt to chase my out-of-the-box dreams.
My purpose has gone way beyond just changing my life. God is providing me with the opportunity to take this huge life
and pour my knowledge into others. Now that you've had the opportunity to learn more about me, I am honored to
get started on this journey with you.
What isn't started will never get
finished, and you've barely scratched
the surface of your full potential.